By Gloria Thomas-Anderson
A friend called me with good news, all excited about how her life was going. She had gotten a great new job, had just closed on her dream house and was celebrating fifteen years of marriage with the love of her life.
I admit—I felt a thunderous bolt of jealousy strike! The thought, “I wish I were you...” was quickly replaced when my mind went to another friend who had just lost a battle to cancer. She seemed to have everything too—a wonderful spouse, healthy children and a beautiful home—but she was gone and that thought made me realize how futile it is to wish being in another woman’s shoes.
Life has highs and lows for us all. No one stays in either sphere forever and what we may think is heaven in another woman’s life may very well be a hell storm for her. Looking from the outside is no indicator of what quality of life she really has.
Later when I spoke to that friend with the good news, she told me that she wished she could be me because I had brothers and a sister and she, being an only child, never experienced the joy of having siblings!
We all seem to long for some things others may have, but we all have some things others do not. Wishing you were in her shoes won’t make it so. Being grateful for what is yours and has come your way is a much better alternative. Besides, her shoe size may fit a bit too tight on you anyway!
Gloria Thomas Anderson, MSW
Columnist of: Inspiring Insights For Your Soul and Spirit!
www.hearttones.com © 2006 Heart Tones
Gloria Thomas Anderson, MSW, is a motivational speaker and writer, a diversity trainer, and a professional social worker who inspires others to harness the power within themselves to create positive change in their lives. Gloria has shared her wisdom and insight on real life issues--Purpose, Relationships, and Spirituality--with hundreds of organizations and groups, including the Fellowship of Professional Women, The Executive Women in Government, Women that Soar, Women's Aglow, and Training For Excellence, Inc.
Her publication, "What Y'all Gon' Do With Me?-The African-American Spiritual and Ethical Guide to End of Life Care" was recently presented at the International First North American Spirituality and Social Work Conference, in Waterloo, Canada and published in "The Society for Spirituality and Social Work Forum". She has also received several awards and grants toward her research. Gloria is the author of the popular self-help book, Passion For Your Purpose--Discovering Peace, Direction and Balance In Your Life and columnist of Inspiring Insights For Your Soul and Spirit!
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By Gloria Thomas-Anderson
Early in our lives, most of us studied the transformation process of how a caterpillar becomes a butterfly. This remarkable metamorphosis can symbolize how we as women are being transformed from one stage in life to another.
Caterpillars move rather slowly, barely inching along with deliberate unhurriedness. Butterflies on the other hand, flitter joyously through the air almost effortless. If we had our dithers, I’d bet that most women would prefer being the butterfly. I certainly would. Fluttering around weightless, free and beautiful sounds good to me!
Yet, for the butterfly to come into fruition, the caterpillar had to come first. So it is with life—we must crawl before we walk and that which is not so pretty in our life can turn into something beautiful as time goes on.
Life is a metamorphic journey and there are three levels that we as women go through that steadily move us along the continuum to achieve butterfly status.
1) AWARENESS – Recognizing that life is constantly changing and so are you. Every experience in your life story is for a purpose and has meaning for the next phase you enter. Whatever you have gone through in life and survived contributes to your growth and development. The lessons of life come to strengthen and prepare you for what is yet to come.
2) ASSESSMENT - Once you are aware that every stage of life brings new challenges and opportunities, it is important to reflect on and assess where you are in the process. Are you fretting about life or flowing with it? Are you moving forward or taking steps backwards? Are you making choices that can help better your life or choices that burden your life? To move to butterfly status requires one to acknowledge and address those issues that are standing in the way of moving up and onward.
3) ACTION –Only when you have become aware of who you are and taken an honest assessment of where you are, can the step of action come into play. Action requires that you do something that moves you toward the next level of growth. That something may be rekindling a hobby you’ve set aside or the pursuit of a personal goal that you feel passionate about.
The transformation for a woman to move from a caterpillar to a butterfly is a process and the transition can be beautiful when we learn to glide in this metamorphic journey called life.
Gloria Thomas Anderson, MSW
Columnist of: Inspiring Insights For Your Soul and Spirit!
www.hearttones.com © 2006 Heart Tones
Gloria Thomas Anderson, MSW, is a motivational speaker and writer, a diversity trainer, and a professional social worker who inspires others to harness the power within themselves to create positive change in their lives. Gloria has shared her wisdom and insight on real life issues--Purpose, Relationships, and Spirituality--with hundreds of organizations and groups, including the Fellowship of Professional Women, The Executive Women in Government, Women that Soar, Women's Aglow, and Training For Excellence, Inc.
Her publication, "What Y'all Gon' Do With Me?-The African-American Spiritual and Ethical Guide to End of Life Care" was recently presented at the International First North American Spirituality and Social Work Conference, in Waterloo, Canada and published in "The Society for Spirituality and Social Work Forum". She has also received several awards and grants toward her research. Gloria is the author of the popular self-help book, Passion For Your Purpose--Discovering Peace, Direction and Balance In Your Life and columnist of Inspiring Insights For Your Soul and Spirit!
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By Kadence Buchanan
Women have learned all the secrets and little tricks that can make their faces glow, their bodies firm and their skin and hair flawless. But there's one area where we still have much to learn. And it has a lot of bearing on how we look as well. It is in taking care of our self-esteem.
We all know that when we're feeling down, inferior or unworthy, our faces sag and our overall features look tired and defeated. Some may even argue that have strong self-esteem is more attractive than having the right physical attributes, and they may have a point. Following are a few simple tips that can help women rev up their self-esteem.
1. Press The Magic Button -- Most of us need to boost our self-confidence every now and then. One of the best ways to do this is to recall exactly who we are and why we should feel good about ourselves. Create a Magic Button -- a mental image of three things that make you feel good -- and press on it once in a while. These things could include images of your biggest achievements, the smiling faces of people who matter to you or something as simple as a piece of music.
This Magic Button is especially important when we down and things aren't going our way. We have to remember that whatever setbacks we've faced are temporary. We've overcome them before to reach success. Press that magic button.
2. Overcome self-consciousness -- Yes, self-consciousness is probably the biggest enemy of self-confidence. We tend to look at ourselves too harshly and focus on our perceived faults and shortcomings. To overcome self-consciousness, you should try focusing on others: try to put other people at ease, check the room for people who you might learn to like, make a mental note of possible business contacts.
Sometimes, if focusing on other people proves difficult, we can ease our self-consciousness by looking intently at our surroundings -- examining paintings, admiring furniture and decor, anything that will take our minds off ourselves.
3. Don't Stand For Undue Criticism - Sometimes our self-esteem ebbs because we allow others to treat us like rags and walk all over us. This is something we should never allow, even if we have made a mistake or come up wanting in a situation. We should bear in mind that even top-notch people make mistakes.
Kadence Buchanan writes articles on many topics including Women, Beauty, and Women's Health.
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By Gregg Hall
Women of today are strong and independent. From the stay at home mother to the corporate woman, women have been making the decisions in their lives that will better themselves and those around them. Wearing bras have long been a normal part of womanhood. Women wear bras for support, comfort and beauty. There is a vast amount of selection of bras on the market today. The plain white bras of our mothers and grandparents, which were meant for support and little else, no longer limit women.
Having so many choices for bras today women have found a secret world of beauty that is not seen by others yet makes a woman feel beautiful under her clothes.
Finding the beauty of your own body no matter your shape or size can radiate throughout your life. When women feel beautiful under their clothes they have more confidence on the outside, appearing more confident to others.
Whether you are have a small or large chest there is many types of bras to choose from. If you need a bra that will offer support for large breasts the best place to look is at department and specialty stores for plus size women. You can even have your bust measured at many stores so that you can find the best fit in your new bra. The styles and colors of bras are so many that you may want to buy several bras of the same type but in different colors and beauty for any occasion.
If you are looking for a certain bra for a specific outfit you should wear or bring that outfit to the store when you shop for a bra. By bringing the outfit with you, you can insure the bra will match well or fit the way that will best accentuate your personal beauty and style.
If there is a formal event in your future the bra industry has many bras available to support you under any dress. For a strapless dress or blouse there are bras without straps available. There are also stick on bras that will support your breasts under a dress but show no straps or even hooks under the dress. These are great for weddings and other formal dresses. They are quite comfortable yet you have no indication whatsoever of wearing a bra. These types of bras are found generally at bridal shops.
The colors and styles of bras offer endless possibilities for you to find the right bra for you. You can find a bra for any piece of clothing that will look beautiful under your clothes making you feel more comfort on the outside. Going shopping for a new bra is a secret to feeling beautiful under your clothes.
Gregg Hall is an author living in Navarre Florida. Find more about this as well as hot lingerie at http://www.hotlingeriesuperstore.com
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By Gregg Hall
As women have evolved over the centuries to more independence and beauty their wardrobes have also changed. With shorter skirts and a vast amount of material and fabric stockings have also evolved. The word stockings have been used to describe socks; pantyhose and open thigh pantyhose held up by garter belts.
Over the last few years stockings held up by garters have been making a comeback. The main reason for this comes from women and their desire to feel and look beautiful even under their clothes. Stockings of today do just that, bringing a secret beauty underneath a women clothing.
Although it is believed that stockings have been around since approximately the early 1500s, many women today are experiencing them for the first time. Stockings were extremely popular in the 1920s but began fading out in the 1960s. The last two or three years have brought women’s stockings back into style.Modern businesswomen have begun wearing more and more skirts and dresses again and therefore been the first to bring the stockings back into style. Wanting to feel beautiful under stiff business wear women turned to lingerie and recently rediscovered the stockings. Although stockings are beautiful they are also much cooler to wear than full pantyhose, making them a perfect solution to spending twelve or fourteen hours in a dress or skirt at work.
Stockings have also been rediscovered in the lingerie industry, selling to women who want to feel sexy and desirable. Men have showed much interest in women wearing stockings. Feeling sexy and desirable is an important part of being a woman. All women deserve to feel beautiful and wearing lingerie such as stockings helps women to accomplish that in privacy, bringing more confidence in public. Men are encouraging wives and girlfriends to try wearing the stockings as a way to bring more excitement to relationships by desire.
With the return of stockings in women's wardrobes an old wedding tradition is also returning to brides. After the reception and before the start of the wedding dance the bride is sat in the middle of a room on a chair and the best man removes the bride's garter holding the stockings. It is a way of passing from a single woman to a committed married woman.
Runway models are showing stockings and giving new ideas to the options when wearing stockings. There are many different styles of stockings on the market so it is fairly easy to find stockings to match any outfit or occasion. Whether you are dressing up or dressing down stockings will bring a new feeling of beauty and a secret sexiness to your life. The return of stockings appears to be a very welcome change.
Gregg Hall is an author living in Navarre Florida. Find more about this as well as hot lingerie at
www.hotlingeriesuperstore.com
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By Karen Sargent
Historically, women are often depicted as damsels in distress. They are in need of a knight in shinning armour to captivate them, to save them from dreadful boredom and to take care of them. Today, a little of that is still in us. However, we can empower ourselves to break the stereotype. One way is through competitive and non-competitive sports.
Sports can be classified in two ways, team sports and individual sports. Team sports such as, basketball, volleyball and soccer are in need of people to play. These are the typical numbers; five on a basketball team, two or six on a volleyball team and a soccer team needs eleven players. Team sports instills many positive character traits in individuals. These traits can be good sportsmanship, getting along with others, dependency on others to do their part or play their position, trust building and group dynamics just to name a few. Individual sports is just you. You have to be the one to go the distance. A few good individual sports are; jogging, bicycling, swimming, golf, dance and weight training. They instill self-motivation, self-sacrifice, self-determination to stay active and to continue.
Being active in any sport is good. The benefits are many.
I’ll list a few: better oxygen volume, toned muscles, maintenance or a better ideal weight, induce sleep, release of feel good hormones, prevention of disease, better focus and vision. So what ever you decide make play apart of your day.
Karen Sargent is the creator and designer of a web site for women's sport apparel. She'sa physical educator and health teacher in a public school system inIllinois.http://www.womensportapparel.com
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By Mary Foley
Do you ever feel like Wonder Woman? I have. As a woman juggling a ton of things I've wondered "what the heck happened to my life?"
In fact, there have been times when I wondered if I had much of a "life" at all.
You know what I mean. As a woman you play multiple roles. You're a daughter, grand daughter, sister, niece, girlfriend, wife, business woman, gal pal, volunteer….and sometimes community leader, politician, or in the ministry. And you're exhausted! You want to do it all and do it all well. You don't want to let anyone down, and yet you're losing it. Okay, so maybe you don't need to be checked into to a hospital, but your energy and enthusiasm is slipping, your health is waning, and you wonder if you can keep it all together.
The solution to the problem I've often heard is to have "work-life balance." I understand the intent, but striving for balance hasn't worked for me. The idea of balance is that I evenly divide up my time and energy for every area of my life, like a see-saw with a whole bunch of sides to it with equal weights. But, my life isn't divided up evenly, nor do I think it should be. Right now for example, to grow my business takes a better chunk of my time than, let's say, making dinner, working out, or taking care of pets.
I say forget "balance". Strive for sanity instead! Sanity is feeling at the end of everyday feeling internally satisfied that you used your time and energy on what's most important to you. Here are seven secrets to getting there.
Secret #1 is Know What You Want
Be clear about who and what's important to you. Then make choices to support your decision. If you don't know what I want, there will always be someone who will try to determine it for you.
Secret #2 is Say "No" Without Apology
When you're saying "no" to what you don't want you're saying "yes" to what you do want. Saying no doesn't mean you're being mean or hurting someone else. It means you're taking care of yourself and, often, those you most care about. That's something we should never apologize for!
Secret #3 is Focus on What's Going Right
Focusing your attention on those things that are working and helping you feel good about yourself gives you the necessary self-esteem and staying power for dealing with difficult situations and creating sanity.
Secret #4 is Stay Away From Whiners
Life is too short and requires too much of us to be spending lots of time with people or in situations that don't cheer us on to the best we can be and go for our dreams.
Secret #5 is Get Someone Else to Do It
You really don't have to do it all! Get someone to do the things in your life that really can be done by someone else.
Secret #6 is Take Care of You and You and You
Take care of all of you – the physical you, the emotional you, the mental you, the social you, and the spiritual you. Taking care of yourself gives you staying power. You're not only worth it; you are the only you you've got.
Secret #7 is Be Serious About Not Being So Serious
Don't miss the fun along the way. Be playful! Laugh as much as possible and find the humor that's begging to be discovered. The demands of your fast, full life temporarily melt away.
Copyright (c) 2006 Mary Foley
During a successful, demanding, rising through the ranks 10 year career with America Online Mary learned that the only way to thrive in today’s world is to be bold, positive, and courageous – bodacious! Today Mary inspires women everywhere to be bodacious in their lives, careers and businesses. You can be inspired, too! Get a free copy of Mary’s e-book “How to Be Courageously in Charge of Your Life and Lovin’ It!” at http://www.gobodacious.com!
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By Mitch Hampson
Silver jewelry is both attractive and affordable. Many men and women are choosing silver as an alternative to gold.
When you purchase jewelry you don't frequently think about taking care of it. Though, if you clean silver jewelry it can stay vibrant and beautiful for years.
There are several different methods that you can use to clean jewelry. When you purchase a piece of silver jewelry the sales clerk might ask if you'd like to purchase a solution that is specially made to clean it.
This normally consists of a plastic container which holds a liquid that has been designed to clean silver jewelry. This type of solution works well to clean jewelry that doesn't contain gemstones.
Gemstones can be damaged if placed in one of the chemical solutions that are designed to clean just silver. The sheen of them can be worn away and after you've cleaned them they will have lost some of their luster.
Another method to clean jewelry simply involves the use of a soft cloth. To this type of jewelry in this manner, you rub the piece carefully with the cloth to clean off any dust or residue. This also helps to polish the jewelry and can restore its shimmer.
An alternative to clean jewelry that incorporates both methods are specially designed cloths that contain a cleaning solution. The benefit of using one of these cloths to clean your silver jewelry is that you can control what the solution touches.
Therefore if the piece does contain gemstones you can ensure that the solution only comes in contact with the silver. If you need to clean jewelry in this manner you can inquire at your local jewelry retailer about the availability and pricing of the cloths.
It's not necessary to clean jewelry after each wearing. Items like silver earrings, you'll want to disinfect before each use. Other items, such as bracelets or necklaces only want to be cleaned if you notice them becoming dirty.
Taking the time to clean your jewelry keeps it looking its absolute finest, and it prolongs the life of the jewelry piece. Even if silver is less expensive than gold, it is still an investment that you should take care of.
Talk to your jeweler about the best method to clean silver jewelry and with a little time and attention no one will be able to advise if your necklace, bracelet or earrings are brand new or if you've had them for years.
Mitch Hampson is a successful Webmaster and publisher of Beading Supplies so if you would like more information on this subject please checkout his website at www.jewelryjew.info
This article is shareware. Give this article away for free on your site, or include it as part of any paid package as long as the entire article is left intact including all live links. Copyright © 2006 Mitchell Hampson.
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By Lee Dobbins
Your wedding day is one of the most memorable believes of your life and you want everything to be perfect from the ceremony to the gown to the jewelry. Selecting the perfect wedding jewelry can not only make your wedding day more memorable something that you can treasure for the rest of your life and also has an annual to pass down to your children for their wedding day.
If you are lucky enough to have heirloom jewelry to wear on your wedding day and the choices are simple. You can wear what you were given however if you haven't been given an entire set of jewelry you will need to find matches to complete the set. Since you're heirloom jewelry is most likely antique the best place to look for matches is in an antique store. You can find antique stores most anywhere and also online. When looking at vintage orientate jewelry be sure to check the jewelry over to make sure there is no missing stones or excessive wear.
If you don't have any heirloom jewelry then it's up to you by jewelry and create heirlooms for your children. One thing you want to consider is the quality of the tools and how long they'll last over time. Wedding jewelry doesn't need to be expensive but if you want handed down to future generations you'll need to buy something that will last.
Here's some tips on how to choose the perfect wedding jewelry:
One thing to consider when buying jewelry is the shape of your face. If you have a wide jaw and you want to choose jewelry that doesn't call attention to this. In this case she would want to choose long looking jewelry such as necklaces with long pendant lariat and long earrings.
It's your hairstyle is another consideration if you're wearing a long do you want to be sure that you earrings can be seen if you're wearing your hair out then small earrings might be consideration. However if you want to accentuate your knack then you probably want to wear some great chandelier earrings or long Drippy shoulder duster's.
You want to keep your jewelry elegant and simple. You want to jewelry to accentuate the moment but not overshadow the beautiful glow of the bride.
Many brides have a preference whether they like silver or gold if you want to spend a lot of money you can opt for sterling silver which is certainly a shiny and beautiful as gold. Diamonds, of course, are always a good choice if you can use many other gemstones to add some color to the day. Just be sure that the jewelry does not draw attention away from the beautiful bridal dress.
Pearls are a traditional bridal jewelry choice. They look great and enhance almost any complexion and always match perfect with the bridal dress. Even if the brightest choosing off-white you can choose cream-colored pearls for your wedding jewelry and still have an elegant look.
No matter what you choose for wedding jewelry you want to be sure to care for them properly so that they last for years to come. While diamonds are hard and aren't easily damaged pearls and other gemstones are softer and you will need to handle them with care. Be sure to store them in a protected area where they can't rub up against other jewelry and get scratched. Always be careful when cleaning any kind of pearls or gemstones that you do not use harsh chemicals that might damage the stone. Periodic cleaning using the proper methods can go one way to making your jewels last a lifetime.
Choosing your wedding jewelry should be one of the fun tasks of your wedding planning. Be sure to pick jewelry that you can wear on other occasions and your wedding jewels will always be a reminder of your beautiful day.
Lee Dobbins is an avid jewelry collector designer and dealer. She hosts http://www.jewelerati.com where you can learn more about all kinds of jewelry including how to select the best wedding jewelry.
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By Alison Cole
How much importance do you attach to a piece of jewelry? Is it a means of investment for you, an heirloom that you will pass on to your next generation, an aesthetic piece that you wear to make yourself look attractive no matter what its value is? Or, are you a fashion-conscious person who likes to wear what’s “in”? If the last reason defines your preference, then you are fond of what is popularly called “Fashion Jewelry”.
Beautiful designs and affordable prices, a special something to wear with your favorite dress—these are what fashion jewelry is all about. You definitely would not want to spend too much money on something that won’t be in style the next season. Obviously, a piece of expensive jewelry cannot be as easily discarded as a cardigan that is no longer in vogue. That explains why jewelry trends usually involve metals such as bronze, brass, silver, antiqued metals and even wood—something that most people can afford to buy.
Every season has its own fashion statement. Necklaces may be “out” one season and “in” the next season. This season, it seems to be the long, multilayered necklaces that will make you stand out. Nothing discreet please; bold is in, and the bigger the better. Try a multilayered bead necklace with a long, flowing skirt, and you are bound to be showered with compliments. The same rule applies to your hand jewelry. Match your beaded necklace with a bangle covered with beads, wire or even colorful fabric. And how can we forget the most important accessory of all, the earrings! Long, linear hanging earrings (not the chandeliers that were “in” last season), with colorful stones look great on most women. Finger rings, brooches and pins—everything in bold and chunky styles and you are all set for this season.
Jewelry provides detailed information about jewelry, fashion jewelry, fine jewelry, religious jewelry and more. Jewelry is the sister site of Titanium Rings Web.
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By Tammy Gonzales
Making out your Advance Directives must be first on your to do list. It is better to plan in advance then to rely on fantasies of how we think others would react to making decisions for us. Others may make decisions that may be in their own best interest not yours. Unplanned events sometimes occur in our lives that may take away the opportunity for us to make our own decisions. Why burden others with expense and timely legal problems.

A living will allows you to document your wishes concerning medical treatment when you are unable to speak for your self or nearing the end of life. A medical power of attorney allows you to appoint someone to be your health care agent, usually some one you trust, who will be authorized to make medical and health care decisions, (medical treatment, care provider and environment) on your behalf.

No matter what your age is or how long you expect to be in good health or to be alive planning for your health care in the event of a medical health crisis is a priority. Give yourself a voice. For many of us it is very difficult to talk to the ones we love about events that we do not want to see as possible or inevitable.

Talking to those you love about what to do in the event of a medical health crisis is important even though it is impossible to foresee every event or circumstance. Bringing in your family and friends into the process will help you get a feeling for who may be best able and willing to support the decisions that are import ant for you.

When talking about your decisions it is important to consider your values and beliefs, as this is very personal. Advance Directives can be changed as your health circumstance changes. With age and change in life style habits our physical bodies may be prone to certain disease progression or debilitating impairments of one kind or another. So reviewing and updating your advance directives is important.

Talk to your medical provider or doctor and let then know that you are making your advance directives. They will be glad to know this. Your doctor can answer your questions about your health and explain treatments and possible outcomes. Let your Doctor know about the quality of life you want in the event of a medical health crisis. Find out if your doctor is willing to follow your wishes, as the law does not require them to, if they disagree and feel it is unethical or against their morals.

Consider the following:

Current age, life style and activity.
How you feel about doctors, caregivers and care-giving environments.
Your religious beliefs and your morals, values and ethical attitudes about care and illness.
Attitude about control and independence and the possible loss.
Health, illness, fearful situations of death and dying. When you are ready to appoint a health care agent you may want to select some one you trust and understands your decisions. The person you select can be a spouse/partner, family member or a friend. It needs to be some one who is willing to act on your behalf. Some individuals may not be able to act on your behalf if they do not understand or agree with what you determine is the best and appropriate treatment for you. It is important to clarify what you want to reduce any remorseful feelings. Keep in mind that health care agents can make medical decisions when you are unable to, not just at life end.

You can obtain Advance Directives and Medical Power of Attorneys from your local hospital, long-term care facility, your physician may have them available, your local libraries reference desk, and your local Senior Law Office.

Partnership for Caring – Provides additional information about Advance Directives and Health Care powers of Attorney. They also provide forms that you can download for free. All they require is you completing a simple registration form. They do not share your information. Go to this link now to get your free Advance Directives: Partnership For Caring

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By Terry Hernon MacDonald
Okay, you’ve scored a date with a sexy somebody for Saturday night, and you’re terrified you’re going to blow it. Don’t worry; if you follow these tips, you’ll do just fine. The bonus? None of them involves getting plastic surgery or renting a Jaguar for the evening.
1. The key to being a great date is to love yourself. Nothing is more attractive than an individual who regards himself highly. It doesn’t matter of you’re short, fat, bald or hairy in all the wrong places. You’ve heard the maxim, “You can’t love somebody until you love yourself,” and it’s true, but nobody else is going to love you until you love yourself, either. Self-love attracts love like a magnet.
2. Resolve to be yourself and only yourself. Don’t tell me you’re not interesting enough, good-looking enough, smart enough. Ask yourself: Do you want your date to like you for somebody you are or for somebody you aren’t? Right. Now, be yourself, and understand that maybe your date will like you and maybe he or she won’t. Either way, you’ll live. I promise.
3. Visualize quiet confidence. For several days before your date, visualize yourself sitting with him or her and feeling calm, cool, and attractive. Really feel it! See, hear, and feel yourself laughing easily. Feel yourself smiling. Practice this while you’re waiting to order your coffee in the company cafeteria. Do it in the Laundromat. Feel it until it feels real.
4. Make a list of all the things you have going for you. A great sense of humor? Compassion? Beautiful teeth? Are you an executive at an up-and-coming company? Write down your desirable qualities and read the list several times a day. Let it sink in. Knowing what makes you special will give you confidence and an inner glow on the big night.
5. Now that you know what makes you wonderful, keep it to yourself. No need to turn the date into an infomercial: Avoid mentioning that you’re considered the unofficial mayor of your town because you’re so popular. Don’t brag about how you trounced Texas Tess in the chili competition. Allow your date to make little discoveries about you. Trust him or her to see that you’re an excellent catch.
6. View your shortcomings as positives. A healthy person will be drawn to you despite the fact that you drive a 1987 Chevette, as long as you’re kind, considerate, and funny. If you’re ten pounds overweight, there are people who will find you sexy because they’ll perceive you as being slightly indulgent. If you’re a man who’s balding and consider it a disadvantage, decide to make it an advantage. Many women see a disappearing hairline as a sign of virility.
7. Have reasonable expectations of the other person. What’s more revolting than a paunchy guy who expects his girlfriend to look like Paris Hilton? Or, a woman in a dead-end job who turns her nose up at the guy driving the 1987 Chevette? If you want to find somebody who will like you for you, be sure to return the favor.
8. Don’t stereotype. All women are not desperate to get married. All men do not fear commitment. Purge your noggin of the nonsense the media have fed you about the opposite sex. Look your date in the eye and treat him like a human being, not like somebody you must manipulate. Treat your date as you would have him or her treat you. You will be successful beyond your wildest dreams.
9. Remember, it’s a date, not a job interview. Don’t view this person as a potential spouse. Remove the pressure. See him or her as an acquaintance you’d like to turn into a friend. That’s it. Break the ice with a compliment, but avoid making overly personal remarks like, “Wow, you look hot in those pants.” Something non-threatening like, “Nice shirt,” works well because it conveys that you think your date has good taste!
10. Stay away from sex. I don’t care if you’re a man or a woman, sex on the first date is bad news. Don’t even think about it! Having sex on the first date sets up all sorts of weird and uncomfortable expectations. Furthermore, you could end up with a deadly disease. Hit the sheets only after you’re sure you’re both healthy, and that you actually like the other person. It makes for much better sex.
11. Accept the possibility that you’ll be rejected. Maybe you and your sexy somebody will hit it off. Maybe you won’t. When I was single, I often reminded myself that even Bruce Springsteen (the biggest, sexiest rock star of the time) faced rejection by the opposite sex at one time or another. So have Britney Spears, Brad Pitt, and all the other luminaries we’ve been trained to envy. Everybody faces rejection. Everybody. Not just you!
After the date is over, decide whether you’d like to see this individual again. Stop fretting that you didn’t make a good enough impression and ask yourself if you even liked him or her. Review the evening dispassionately. Is he or she someone you would choose for a friend? Did you feel good around this person?
If not, it’s probably best to move on.
If the answer is yes, proceed accordingly.
Terry Hernon MacDonald is the author of How to Attract and Marry the Man of Your Dreams (Even if You're Not Rich, Thin, or Beautiful).
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By Sheila Dicks
The dress code in most organizations is as different as the organization itself, so it is impossible to find an outfit that will work well in all interviews. What should you do? Do some investigating and find out how the employees dress and follow their lead but dress just slightly better.
Wear business-like attire, avoiding flashy colours, bold prints, logos and keep jewelry to a minimum. Wear clothes in which you feel comfortable and don't wear skirts that will ride up when you sit. Carry a nice attaché case or folder to hold your resume and examples of your work.
Before you leave home check yourself in a full length mirror and have one last look for rips, runs in stockings (take an extra pair just in case you get a run along the way) and buttons that are about to fall off. A few extra points:
1. Wear a fashionable suit or dressy tailored separates. Make sure they fit well and don't remove the jacket during the interview (don't laugh, I saw this happen).
2. Prepare your clothes for the interview the night before and try it on. Don't leave anything to chance.
3. If you are not wearing a jacket but choose to wear something more casual long sleeves are a must. Sleeveless garments should not be worn in a work environment and certainly not for an interview.
4. Never go without hosiery and don't wear sandals.
5. It has been said that you can look at a person's shoes and determine how wealthy they are - it seems shoes are the last investment. For an interview or business, wear shoes with a closed toe and closed heel and keep them polished without nicked heels or scruffy toes.
6. Pay attention to your hair. A stylish haircut is essential to a professional image.
7. Carry yourself with confidence; stand tall with your shoulders back. Portray a successful image by paying attention to details - tastefully applied makeup, the best garments you can afford and being prepared for the interview.
When you are prepared for the interview, which means knowing the job you have applied for, knowing your resume and how you fit that job, your self-confidence will become apparent. Taking care of how you look will give you one less thing to worry about so you can concentrate on selling your skills.
Don't forget to smile!!
Sheila Dicks is a wardrobe and image consultant who teaches women how to look slimmer by dressing to suit their body type. Visit her athttp://www.sheilasfashionsense.com to download a copy of her e-bookImage Makeovers and get How to Build a Wardrobe free.
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By Otto Collins
"One Way To Honor and Build Trust in Your Relationship and Each Other"
There are things in every relationship that are sacred. One of these things that we think is most sacred is the trust that can bedeveloped if both people in the relationship honor that thoughts and feelings, whether they are of a positive nature or negative, will be shared first with each other.
Here's an example from our own lives to show you what we mean...
Both of us, in our previous relationships, felt the need to talk to friends and not always our spouses about what was really on ourminds. We often chose to tell our inner most secrets and frustrations to our friends and omit this information when we talked with our spouses.
Although this wasn't the primary reason both of these relationships ended in divorce, we think that it was one way that trust was eroded and not built in those relationships.
When we got together in our relationship, we figured out that if we hoped to have a relationship built on trust and deep connection that this type of intimate sharing with others was a pattern of behavior that had to stop.
If there was conflict, disagreement or challenges that came up, weagreed that we would talk to each other instead of venting our frustrations with a friend or co-worker. This was our sacred agreement with each other.
We just love Bruce Springsteen's song, "If I should fall behind"because it says exactly how we have chosen to be in a relationship with each other. In the song he says, "Let's make our steps clear so the other can see."
To us, this means telling the other person what we are thinking assoon as we have sorted it out ourselves. We don't feel like we have to hide or sugar-coat our truth about a situation or unload on a friend how we are truly feeling without first telling each other.
This doesn't mean we never talk to friends and other family members about our thoughts or what's happening in our lives. Quite thecontrary.
What we are saying is that we have agreed to tell each other first, things that are personal and feelings that come up about the otherperson.
If you find that you have been complaining to other people about your partner or someone close to you and you are not telling your partner how you are feeling, stop.
By talking to others first about your issues instead of the personinvolved, you will continue to erode the safety and trust in your relationship. By talking to others about your issues instead of the person your conflict is with, you could be playing the role of the victim or martyr.
Believe it or not, you may actually be enjoying the sympathy and attention from other people that you are getting from complainingabout the situation with your partner.
If you want to build trust and create a close, connectedrelationship, we've found that this kind of behavior has to stop.
Choosing to let your partner know where you stand and what is going on inside you is not only a way to build trust but also a way to deepen your connection as well...
For more information about building trust in your relationships, go to http://www.collinspartners.com/relationships/honor.htm
Susie and Otto CollinsP.O. Box 1614Chillicothe, Ohio 45601(740) 772-2279
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By Kathy Holmes
When you hear the phrase “Chicks over 40”—do you think sexy? Somehow the phrase does lend that idea, which is especially noticeable when you discover that many men find my blog by searching on that—they’re expecting a site about hot, sexy women. Well, that’s okay. Don’t we all want to be sexy?
My husband and I were sitting in the cruise ship lounge with my in-laws, having a round of sodas either before dinner. The Amand Assante look-alike waiter delivered our Diet Cokes and flirted with each of us by looking into our eyes and saying, “Here are the Diet Cokes so the ladies can stay sexy.” I never forgot that moment. I’m sure he got a pretty big tip that night, too. Because we all would like to be thought of as sexy, attractive, alluring and when it comes to turning 40, it’s the physical part most women are concerned about. And it’s what most women think about when they start researching topics for the “over 40.”
But what is sexy? It’s something different for different people. And something even more different for men than for women. While we’ve probably all been blown away by the sudden appearance of a stunningly beautiful woman, perhaps with a killer body, equally dressed to kill, the most unforgettable women have been those exuding self-confidence. They give an overall feeling of sexy, of being attractive, but if you looked at them closely and noticed their flaws—perhaps their nose is large or they have a bad complexion or are a large-sized woman, you might not think each part was sexy.
So what is it about them that oozes attraction? I mentioned it before. It’s their confidence. Their confidence lends an air to them, a way of dressing, a way of moving that gives a totally different overall look to them than the same person would if they had a lack of confidence. They might look old, fat, and ugly. So how is it you feel? And how do you want to feel? The next time you're in a public place—a mall, perhaps, do this experiment. Wear one of your favorite outfits, stand tall, walk with a confident air, and smile at people. Notice how people respond to you—both men and women. See if people react to you in a more positive way when you feel confident about yourself.
But sometimes before you can feel confident, you have to sort through a lot of baggage. But that is a topic for another article.
Kathy Holmes writes women's fiction with romantic comedy elements while raising an awareness for Women over 40 and Fatherless Daughters, http://www.kathyholmes.net, http://chicksover40.blogspot.com, http://thefatherless.blogspot.com.
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By Janette Vince
The answer to this seemingly complex question really is quite simple. And believe it or not, the reason has nothing to do with what’s pounded into our heads every day by the media. For example…
Looking good and feeling good isn’t going to lead us into the waiting arms of an ultra-rich, incredibly handsome, honest and caring, polite and well-mannered man who just happens to be available AND interested.
Looking good and feeling good isn’t going to guarantee that our social lives will suddenly be as jam-packed and exciting as all those celebrities whose looks we try so desperately to emulate.
And no, looking good and feeling good won’t turn us into highly sought-after starlets either. (Although it MIGHT help us get chosen for the newest reality television show.)
Ladies – No matter what you see on television, or hear on the radio or in the salon, or read in newspapers and magazines, the reasons given above are NOT the reasons why you should look good and feel good. It’s time you refocus. Now pay attention and I’ll give you the answer. Ready for the big reveal? Here is it.
The reason why a lady needs to look good and feel good is so that her life can be more gratifying. Hold on now. This isn’t as shallow as it sounds. And it doesn’t conflict with what I said above either. When you look good and you feel good you know it and others know it too. And if you still don’t believe or understand what I mean, then think about this.
Think back to the last time you were in a room full of females. Do you remember secretly (or along with your girlfriends) giving each person the 30-second analysis based solely on appearance? Don’t shake your head and get all righteous; you know you did.
As you scanned the room, you could tell in a moment the women who looked good and felt good. Their eyes seemed to sparkle, their steps seemed a bit lighter, their words flowed a bit more freely, and their overall appearance showed a keen attention to detail.
The women who didn’t look good or feel good were just the opposite. The statements they made were full of negative undertones, they had forgotten what their mothers told them about proper posture, they needed someone to tell them NOT to go out looking like that, and they were turning others away faster than they were attracting them.
Which group sounds more like you?
Looking good and feeling good. You almost cannot do one without doing the other. When you look good, you feel good. When you feel good, you cannot help but look good.
How does a lady look good and feel good? It isn’t hard and in fact, looking good and feeling good has never been easier! It doesn’t matter whether you have a lot of time or just a little, or a lot of money or just a little. Once you make looking good and feeling good your number one goal, you’ll be surprised at how many different ways there are to accomplish this goal.
You can start working towards your goal right now just by adopting good eating habits. Try loading up on the foods that keep your energy levels constant rather than eating the foods that temporarily spike your energy but then leave you feeling tired and lethargic. Fruits, vegetables, whole grains, lean proteins and nuts are all excellent foods to work into your diet. You might miss the junk food at first, but give your body a chance and watch it thrive.
Once you’ve recovered from the dietary switch, try working in a little exercise. Thirty minutes of moderate exercise 4 – 5 times a week will go far towards helping you look good and feel good. It might be hard at first to give up your couch for a pair of jogging shoes, but after a few weeks, you’ll find that you actually look forward to this time of day.
Exercise has so many benefits. It’ll help tone your body so even if you don’t lose weight, you’ll look better and your clothes will fit better. Exercise also is a great way to reduce stress. If you’re stressed or you know others who are, you know how much older stress can make you look. Exercise improves your circulation, and that’s vital if you want your blood to transport the vitamins and nutrients needed to help you look good and feel good throughout your body. Improved circulation helps your skin look suppler and your hair look shinier, too!
Changing your diet and incorporating exercise will go far towards helping you look good and feel good. But wait, it doesn’t end there! Remember to enjoy yourself too!
Janette Vince is managing director of http://www.thanksdarling.com an online company offering a range of gifts and experience days for individuals and couples. For a range of spa breaks visit http://www.thanksdarling.com/44-5.htm
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By Janette Vince
Admit it—it can be tough shopping for guys. They’re often passionate about their likes and dislikes—and worse, if you’re like most girls, those likes and dislikes don’t exactly resemble your own. If you’re at a loss as to what to give your guy for Christmas, his birthday, or any other major gift-giving holiday, we’re here to help out. Here are six never-fail ideas to make your guy fall in love with you all over again.
A gift voucher - No, really. Guys aren’t as sensitive as women when it comes to the hidden meaning of a gift. Most women believe that if a guy gives her a gift voucher, it means he doesn’t care enough about her to really give any serious thought to what she likes. But with guys, that’s often not the case. Every man usually has an obsession he’s carried over from adolescence—whether it’s electronics, grilling, outdoor activities, sports, or games. All these obsessions have one thing in common—a preoccupation with complex, expensive equipment.
Guys are very knowledgeable about the equipment involved in their obsession, and are often very picky—try getting your golfer guy a club when you know nothing about golf, and chances are you’ll buy the wrong one. But get your golfer a generous gift voucher to a golf store, and he’ll be thrilled. Find out what your guy’s obsession is, and get him a nice big gift voucher. Believe me, he’ll be pleased.
A classy poker/grill/wine set - Whatever your man is into, chances are there’s a fancy set for it. If he likes to BBQ, get him a nice set of grill tools. If he’s a poker player, get him a poker set in a nice hardwood box. Don’t get too technical—if his obsession is fishing, for example, you’d better let him buy his own rod, unless you know a lot about fishing too. But there’s no reason not to get him a great-looking box to keep his lures in.
A hand massager - Even guys like to feel pampered. An electric hand massager can be just the thing he needs to unwind after a long day. Guys tend to like harder, faster pressure than women do—so look for a powerful massager with several settings, so he can adjust.
An exotic car experience - Every guy has a dream car. You can probably tell what your guy’s is by being observant—notice what cars he checks out when you’re out together. If you can’t tell one car from another, ask him—chances are he’ll grab the opportunity to talk about his favorite car. Surprise him by renting his dream car for a day. Let him take it to work, out with the guys, or on a quick weekend getaway with you. It’s a gift he’s sure to talk about for years.
Concert or Theatre tickets – Most men have at least one music obsession. Find out what his is, and check online to see when they are coming to your town. Even if the concert’s a long way off, go ahead and buy him the tickets — it will definitely give him something to look forward to. And if you want him to think you’re a really amazing girlfriend and you really don’t mind not going, tell him he doesn’t have to take you. He might want to take his best friend who’s also a big fan. With a selfless gesture like that, your boyfriend is sure never to forget this gift.
A magazine subscription - Does he like Windsurfing? Get him a subscription to Windsurfing Magazine. Is he into cooking? Get him Fine Cooking Magazine. Like music? A subscription to Rolling Stone should be just the thing. Want to send him a naughty message? There’s always Playboy. Other Good general choices for guys include Maxim, Arena, and GQ. Chances are he’d never think of subscribing to a magazine himself, but would love one as a surprise.
Buying your guy a gift doesn’t have to be a stressful experience. These tips ought to be all you need to get off to a great start on gift-giving, and get your guy a present he’s sure to remember and appreciate.
Janette Vince is managing director of http://www.thanksdarling.com Thanks Darling provides a range of great gifts and driving experience days to suit all occasions. For a range of driving experiences as a gift for a friend of loved one or so you can do something different, visit http://www.thanksdarling.com/47-5.htm
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By Barbara Techel
I am stripped of the war paint on my face and my skin lies naked against the lilac colored pillow case. It is early morning and my sweet husband Johnnie is snuggled next to me. We are pillow to pillow and face to face. He grins his handsome smile and tells me I am beautiful. It has taken me years to “believe” what he is saying is true. It has taken growing into my own sense of self to finally realize what a blessed compliment that really is.
The wrinkles on my face are slowly edging to the surface and age spots are visible to his eye and yet he says I am beautiful. That is a statement that comes straight from the heart, and living within the truth of my own heart is when life is lived the truest and purest.
Finally accepting this true and tender moment of beauty is a feeling I want to hold on to forever. How do I keep this insight forefront in my thoughts as I slowly rise from bed and make my steps out into the world?
Everywhere around me I am surrounded with advertising of what is said to be beautiful. Buy this or that product and it will take years of your appearance. And if it does take years off your appearance does that settle the restlessness in your soul? If it does not do as promised, where does that leave you and what vicious roller coaster do you continue to ride? If one continually searches for the fountain of youth, one misses out on the coming of age and wisdom.
Why would I want to take years of my face when I worked so hard to get to this point in my life? The lines on my face show my determination and zest for life; my blood, sweat and tears I poured forth into accepting me for who I am. As I fight to become stronger and am determined to just be me I turn the magazine page and see a young, vibrant, vivacious, bouncing starlet making her way across the beach. Yes, okay, that is beauty; she is young and carefree, life yet to be lived. If I could get inside her mind, would it be filled with daunting thoughts of imperfection- the same thoughts that filled mine many years before? Is this young woman living out beauty according to others, trying to keep up, trying to do what society says she should do? On the advertising page, “imperfections” are air brushed out to give us the illusion of how we should all look. Who decided that was beauty? If that decision had not been made, how would it affect our society today?
For me, I think I would have lived more fully. I would have lived life as I felt it should be lived, not as others expected of me or what the TV, movies or magazines defined as beauty. How much heartache would I have saved myself? I shudder to think, but at the same time, I am grateful to have learned to accept myself via my mind and soul instead of my body. With this new found acceptance my thoughts have quieted and my existence is more peaceful.
It used to be difficult for me to hear someone tell me I am pretty. I would feel as if I needed to live up to their definition of pretty at all times and for the rest of my life. If someone saw me without my make-up, would I be less of a human being? As the years have unfolded, it is easier for me to live the statement, “less is more.” Still, it is a rare occasion to catch me without splashes of color painted upon my face. Most days I have whittled down the war paint to a tube of mascara and a pinch of blush helping me to go out into a public that tends to judge you at face value. These days I spend less time worrying about what others think of me, giving me a truthful insight to all the true beauty of what life has to offer. That perspective has led me to gain a beauty within me and about me that attracts to my life definitions and observations of life that so many overlook.
For me, the beauty of life has become a deeper spiritual connection with God, nature, family and friendship. I am more consciously aware that we are what we think. This is a conviction of thought every day as I place positive affirmations in my mind of what I believe to be beauty. With a new sense of direction and purpose I am able to positively affect those around me, bringing a beauty into my life that I welcome with open arms.
Barbara Techel writes a monthly column for the "Depot Dispatch" titled, "For the Love of Animals." She lives in Elkhart Lake, Wisconsin and shares her home with her loving husband John and her three current spiritual fur companions, Kylie, Frankie and Dani. Writing for Barbara is a way of sharing with others her truth and beliefs.
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By Yana Berlin
Are you dating a man who won’t come right out and say “no,” but never quite gets around to saying “yes”?
Today, more and more people tend to marry older, often because both women and men strive to finish their education and become financially independent prior to making a commitment. Nevertheless, the issue of commitment remains a thorny one for many couples.
Let’s fast-forward a decade and see where we stand. Suppose that you, as a fabulously forty sorority sister, are dating someone your age or older who has never been married. I won’t be the one to say a 40-year old single male will never stand before the altar. But let’s get real here. Anyone that old who refuses to commit has real issues.
At the same time, I would never advise anyone not to date a man that age who has never been married. But you need to see him for who he really is. He might be the nicest, brightest guy on the planet, but you have to be smart and observant.
Don’t fall into the trap of making excuses on his behalf when you speak to your friends. And don’t try to change the subject when they ask why his other relationships didn’t work out. Your friends have your best interests at heart. Listen carefully to his stories and don’t be biased. Remember, every story has two sides to it.
Finally, give yourself a timeline and stick to it. If he refuses to commit, you’re better off walking away from the relationship. Not because your biological clock is ticking, and not because you can’t be without a man. Quite simply, your time and your life are too valuable to waste.
Remember, you are smart, beautiful and special. If he can’t give that to you, it’s time to take a detour. Say sayonara, move on….and never look back!
Yana Berlin - Founder of Fabulously40 Inc.™ the only sorority created exclusively for women in their prime. It was established to help women connect with one another and celebrate their age, beauty and spirituality. We hope you'll join us as we set off on the amazing journey to the best part of our lives. http://www.fabulously40.com
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By Jordi Shoman
Trying to be fashionable and portray the latest trends is not always successfully carried out by everyone, nor is it an easy task for anyone. Often it is those we see in the media, the movie stars and larger-than-life celebrities, who become the trend setters, whether advertently or inadvertently. The public, through trying to replicate these celebrities, basically decides what will become trendy, fashionable and popular at that particular time.
Though trying to stay with the times can be a daunting task for some, there are a number of general rules one can follow in order to look both in style and contemporary. Firstly, it is suggested that you try to look for clothing that accentuates your best attributes and generally has a sliming effect particularly if you are trying to cover up specific parts of you that you are not comfortable with. Fashion experts also suggest that you be daring enough to dress out of you age group. Still try to maintain some aura of sophistication though. It is also important to remember that if a particular trend does not suit you too well then it is quite likely worth passing on. Dressing appropriate for your age is also a must. A general rule of thumb is if you think you are too old to wear a particular garment then you probably are.
In some places being trendy requires an entirely different wardrobe, even if your previous attire was considered quite modern and fashionable where you were originally from. Just as different places in the world progress and grow at different rates so to does the fashion industry in many places. However, this is not to say that you must entirely revamp your clothing. Simply wear what ever you feel you are most comfortable wearing and if you eventually do plan to update to look trendier, then do so gradually.
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By Carol Welsh
Have you ever wondered by some women instantly appear professional while others seem to not have it completely together? How we act and react is influenced by our four perceptual styles: Audio, Visual, Feeler, and Wholistic. We are a combination of all four styles but our primary style influences are actions and reactions the most. However, the more in balance you are between the four styles, the easier it is to adapt to the other person’s style. This adaptability makes you more approachable and people admire your professionalism.
For instance, when you are having a meeting with an Audio, you need to cover the main points and in a logical sequence. If you ramble or provide unnecessary details, she might interrupt and ask, "And the point is?" As a professional woman, you know to collect your thoughts and remain focused during the meeting. It’s okay if she is not maintaining eye contact with you because she can concentrate better if she turns her ear toward you.
On the other hand, if you break eye contact with a Visual, it has the same affect as if you interrupted her.
When meeting with a Visual, it’s show time. If you simply tell her your plans for a project, she will have a blank face because she is trying to visualize what is needed and the steps involved. As a professional woman, you understand her feeling that "if it’s going to be done right, I have to do it myself." Point out what can be delegated and what is acceptable, even if it’s not at her standard of perfectionism. Otherwise, she'll get so bogged down in the details that she might not meet the deadline.
A Feeler is willing to work on whatever needs to be done as long as she understands how to do it. Audios have a tendency to be blunt, which can intimidate a Feeler. As a professional woman, you speak gently and realize she needs to have a chance to try what you are asking her to do because she doesn't want to make a mistake. You encourage her to take on new challenges and show your appreciation for the many tasks she has completed.
Because a Wholistic has the ability to quickly grasp the whole picture, she is ready to take action immediately. As a professional woman, you support her ability to do the up front planning and help her delegate the rest of the responsibilities. Her mind quickly thinks of other possibilities which scatters her attention and may raise a few eyebrows. By helping her stay focused, she will come appear professional rather than scattered.
The diversity of the perceptual styles can unite or sabotage a team. What can you do when someone easily pushes your hot button? Change how you approach the difficult person to get a more favorable response.
I was upset with my boss and realized I had let him steal my smile. I decided to revert back to my usual smiling self. Just four hours later my boss said, "Carol, I don't know what’s different about you, but I like you a whole lot better."
We are more empowered than we think to change a negative situation. I advised a woman who was disgusted with her four male colleagues to ask herself, "Would I like to work with me?" The response was, "No! I've been a real bitch!" This awareness caused her to lighten up and to behave more professionally. Her colleagues’ response to her change in behavior was positive, and she turned a negative situation around in less than a week.
Carol Welsh, M.S,. is the author of "Stop When You See Red." She has over 25 years of experience as a speaker and is a frequent guest on talk shows. Her Web site is http://www.stopred.com She can be contacted at carolwelsh@stopred.com
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By Kadence Buchanan
Love relationships between women and men are difficult, complex, and sometimes overwhelming, and authors, experts, and friends are always willing to offer advice on how to overcome them. In a welcome and overdue twist on the old theme, many authors have decided over the years to explore the intense nature of friendships between women, so widely experienced yet traditionally downplayed.
Experts suggest that women's friendships are rooted in the bonds between a mother and a daughter. Subconsciously competing for the love of the same man, husband and father, the relationship of future women friends is directly related to the experience a woman had while growing up. With this backdrop of keen identification, a woman can often "feel" the very pain or joy that her friend may be experiencing. But along with this astonishing intimacy, however, come the usual strains of mutual dependency between mother and daughter. As numerous examples illustrate, a woman may be scarred for life and never forget the devastation she might feel in case she gets betrayed or abandoned by another woman. As many women can regretfully attest, these negative and stressful feelings are generally associated with the pain of ending a love relationship with a man due to a friend's act.
Most frequent than in men's friendships, feelings of jealousy, competition, anger and guilt inevitably arise in women's friendships, due to the threat they feel in balancing a relationship with another woman and yet maintain a healthy, open and intimate relationship with a man. Moreover, these competitive feelings might arise when one friend gets a new job while another does not succeed the same, if one falls in love and the other feels extremely lonely at that time, in case one wants to have a child and has yet to stand painfully by her friend's pregnancy. Psychotherapists advocate that women friends openly acknowledge the negative feelings between them in the belief that differences, if are successfully sorted out, can lead to a much fuller friendship.
If you are interested in exploring this provocative subject and you feel secure enough to discuss it with your female friend, try opening up some of the hidden and more difficult aspects of your friendship and you will probably be amazed with the things you will discover for the other person's inner feelings apart from your own thoughts. In fact, such matters are daily the main subject of discussion between many women friends who want to explore them further, with the help of their good female friend.
Kadence Buchanan writes articles on many topics including Women, Beauty, and Women's Health
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By Mandy Morris
Are you one of the millions of people suffering from being overweight? Is your kitchen counter is filled with protein shakes and diet pills that didn't work, and your basement crammed full of exercise equipment that eventually just sits there? Have you starved and exercised yourself into what felt like oblivion to see hardly even a dent of weight loss on your scale? Maybe you have tried every latest craze on the market, only to see very little, if any results! Is it any wonder so many of us eventually give up?
That's how it was for me until I stumbled across the most amazing plan to lose weight. It is the healthiest and safest way to lose weight I have found. But most importantly, it actually works! You don't have to starve yourself, exhaust yourself, or drain your bank account trying to lose those extra pounds. You can actually eat your way into getting thin! That's what I did!
By eating the right foods at the right time, you can lose weight quickly and effectively. It is so easy, anyone can do it! Eating food is much more effective than taking any dietary pill. By eating specific foods at the right times, your body will burn fat calories at a very fast pace. It will fuel fat loss and you will see the pounds start dropping off. I was amazed to see the body I once had as a teenager! I really thought that would never be possible for me again.
This weight loss plan is the easiest plan I have ever tried. The 11 day program is all laid out for you. You will never starve and you will enjoy eating delicious foods that will make the pounds melt right off your body. After 11 days, you will have 3 days to cheat and eat whatever you want. Have you ever heard of such an easy plan? You will be amazed to see the results! I was thrilled to be able to wear clothes I had not been able to fit in for years! And what fun it was to go buy myself a whole new wardrobe!
By losing weight you will greatly reduce your chances of getting Type2 Diabetes, heart and colon cancer, arthritis, high blood pressure and a number of other diseases related to being overweight. You will have much more energy and feel so much better about yourself. It is the best thing I have ever done. Losing weight doesn't have to be just a dream any more.
By using this method I have lost more weight than I ever thought possible. The nice thing is, it really does work!
Mandy Morris lives in Chicago and is an author who doesn't like to starve herself for a diet.www.articlelinkto.com/fatloss4idiots
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By Kadence Buchanan
Whether it is summer or winter time, you should take out some time from your busy routine to take care of your feet that have been carrying your load all these years everywhere you wanted to go. Thus, if you are interested in getting instant results, try the steps that follow and your will not have to hide your feet under the covers every night. Feet should be one more part of your body you should be proud of and they should be flaunted and shown off. If professional pedicure in a nail salon is out of your budget you should know that you can treat your feet inside the comfort of your own home.
First you have to prepare your feet for the treatment you are about to give them. Fill your bathtub or a bucket with warm water and your favorite foam bath and soak your feet in there for at least 15-20 minutes. You can also add some bath salts or the desired amount of foot soak into the water and let them dissolve and nourish your tired lower body parts. Instead of bath salts you can try your kitchen's salt; it also works miracles.
After taking each foot out of the water, you should use a towel to dry them very well and then move on to clean and trim your nails. Remember to remove any nail polish from your toes.
Upon completing the nails cleaning process, soak your feet again in the warm water and begin removing the dead skin cells by gently scrubbing calluses and heels with a pumice stone. If you wish to attain soften and touchable feet, this is a very important part of the home-made process. Exfoliating your feet, results in having soft feet.
When the softening step is over, remove again your feet from the water and dry them with a clean and dry towel. Massage each feet with a foot lotion that can sooth and smoothen your feet and apply the lotion to the whole foot, from top to bottom, toes to ankle. End this massage experience with light strokes going from your toes to your ankles.
Now it is time to trim your toenails. Remember that you should always cut them in a square shape, which will prevent problems of ingrown nails. Using an orange stick or a cuticle stick gently push back cuticles. Do not attempt to cut your cuticles or rub them away, as they are necessary for keeping bacteria away from your inner skin. Doing this step right, will allow you to paint the entire nail by guiding the supple cuticle out of the way.
Then it is time to let the artist inside you take over. Pick the nail polish shade of your choice and apply the first coat slowly. The last coat should be applied once the previous coat is completely dry.
Finally, after letting your nails dry for at least half an hour, rub a dab of olive oil into your cuticles and nail beds in order to moisturize them.
Indulge yourself in a home pedicure that resembles that of a professional spa. Pay attention to the atmosphere you create and experience in the comfort of your own home a pedicure that could only be offered in a salon. Listen to some relaxing music and enjoy the process. After all, you will end up with prettier feet than before and you will be able to wear all those cute, trendy and colorful nail polish shades you wanted to try for some time.
Kadence Buchanan writes articles on many topics including Beauty, Cooking, and Women
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By Michael Gerry
Do you have trouble understanding men that you date? Can't figure out why men seem distant and non-committal sometimes? You find that communicating with men is almost impossible sometimes, right? I'm sure you think that all men are from mars, too. Well, as a man myself, I can attest that we can be nuts, hard to figure out, and yes... surprise, maybe even a little afraid of making a commitment with a woman.
It doesn't have to be so difficult, and there are approaches you can take with your man to fully understand where he's coming from and how to make him more committed to you. One of the main reasons that you have such a hard time understanding men is the way that you communicate with each other.
Let's consider this situation. You date a guy for a while and things are going great. You feel a connection with him, and you think that he feels the same way. You want to start bombarding him with your feelings about how crazy you are about him and how you want to become more committed to each other. The only problem is that you fear that this will scare him away. To be honest, you're right. It very well could scare him away (if you do it wrong).
The fact is, the way you communicate with the man in your life is what will make or break your relationship. Learning to communicate with him in the right manner is vitally important if you want to have a successful, loving, and long lasting relationship.
I know it can be frustrating to try to understand why men change the way we act toward you as our relationship develops. At first, it seems that we are crazy about you. We're giving you tons of attention, buying you flowers, taking you on great dates, and calling you every day. Then as time goes on, we start to seem less interested, maybe becoming a little distant. We no longer surprise you with gifts. You think we might even be cheating on you. You don't understand what has happened between us and eventually your frustration builds up to the point where you blow up at us and let it all out.
It might be a big fight, or you are very emotional and crying, or complaining about the relationship. Whatever it may be, this comes off to the man as "too much drama", and can possibly make things even worse and make a man more distant. We might think that you are an emotional wreck or "have issues" or something similar.
I understand that you have legitimate reasons to be angry and emotional, and realize that it's not fair for men to think this way, but you have to realize that this is simply the way a man's mind works.
So how do you avoid these issues in a relationship, communicate better with men, and create a long-lasting fulfilling relationship? Well, there are hundreds of aspects we can talk about, but let's start with something very basic.
You need to understand exactly what's going on inside a man's mind. I'll be honest with you. Men have no clue what your expectations are of us and our relationship. You need to communicate with us as time goes on exactly what you want out of our relationship. Otherwise, most guys will never bring up this topic, so it's up to you. I know it sounds scary, but it's best to get it out in the open. If you don't, the man could string you along for months or years, and not really be serious about a committed relationship or marriage.
We'll expand on this discussion later, but hopefully you can take some steps for understanding men better and learning why men are from mars and how to create a more successful and loving relationship.
To discover the top 10 mistakes that most women make with men and how to avoid them for more successful relationships and long lasting love, go to Understanding Men in Relationships and Why Men are From Mars.
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